
Sometimes I feel like (and have been heard to say to Slipshod) I hate my job. What that really means is that I feel like I'm making a complete mess of things and I SUCK at it, so I hate trying so hard to do it and feeling like I usually get it wrong. Here's an example from last week:
Sweet Pea: "Mom, are unicorns real or something that somebody made up?"
Me, deer in the headlights: "Um, they're made up."
Sweet Pea: "Why?"
Me: "Do you mean why did somebody make them up?"
Sweet Pea: "Yeah."
Me: "Well, a long time ago people couldn't always explain what was going on in the world around them and so they made up stories and imagined creatures to explain those things." (How this relates to a unicorn I couldn't tell you, but it sounded good... but here's where I really stepped onto the wrong path:) "There are lots of neat creatures that people have made up."
Sweet Pea: "Like what?"
Me,
realizing I need to tread very carefully here - after all, she's only 4.5: "Well, like elves and dwarves" (which she has probably not heard of yet). "And fairies."
My hand flew to my mouth. We haven't even gotten to the tooth fairy yet! WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?
At the same time that I said "And fairies," however, she was asking, "and leprechauns?"
I can't even remember what I said about leprechauns but I tried to make their existence sound more than likely. At that moment, though, I was busy being completely horrified that I had told her fairies don't exist, and hoping that she hadn't heard what I had said.
My problem with this sort of thing is that I am not the kind of person who can instantly come up with some kind of cute or funny story that is on the subject, yet deflects the child from the direct question and makes them decide for themselves. Sometimes I do have the presence of mind to ask, "what do
you think?" but Sweet Pea will always tell me what she thinks and then ask again for the real answer.
I also don't want to lie to my kids. But I DO want to provide them with a sense of childhood wonder. You know, while they're wee. What is the answer? How do you deal with this sort of thing with your children?